I am going to begin this post with a little introduction. I have been blogging for a couple of years now. I started Fancy Little Momma after I had my son because while I was off on maternity leave, I started following and reading other blogs. From fashion to lifestyle and food blogs, I loved to read them. I have always loved fashion and all things beautiful. I am meticulous and I am a believer of the “look good, feel good” policy. One thing that has always been consistent is that I frequently have my family, friends and strangers ask me where I bought clothes or items, how I came up with the theme for my Bridal shower or birthday party. With these constant questions & inquiries, I decided that I would start my Blog: Fancy Little Momma. In my short time blogging, there are a few things that I struggle with as a blogger.
Before I had started my Blog, I hadn’t realized how time consuming it would be. I knew that it would be work, but not this much work. I have two children now under the age of 4, a full time job and career and of course my home life. This most definitely has been a reason why I struggle with posting consistently and regularly. I really love my Blog, but I also don’t want to just post things to just post them. I want them to be authentic, to be me, to be well written. What I do know is that I have had emails and messages from other people who really want to start a Blog, but are scared. I say, do whatever makes you happy. Life is way too short to hesitate or worry about failure.
What does it mean to be authentic anymore?
The blogging world seems so saturated with bloggers that there doesn’t seem to be space for new ones and ones that are authentic ( I am not saying there aren’t amazing, authentic bloggers). What I mean by this is that there are a lot of new bloggers out there who have 10,000 followers on Instagram and have just begun. I have been doing this for a couple of years and have yet to hit 3,000. I think this may be two fold.
First, those people who’s blogs are growing at a crazy fast rate are probably purchasing and buying followers. Which, crazy enough is a thing. If they’re not, then they must be really fantastic and/or have beaten Instagrams algorithm. Kudos to you for your hustle then :) I really want people to follow my Blog because they like it, me and what I post.
The second part to this is that a lot of people who “follow” you don’t actually follow you. Ghost followers I refer to them as. They lurk your socials & websites but never hit that ‘like’ or ‘follow’ button. I have a tonne of traffic that frequents my website daily, weekly and monthly. These numbers don’t actually match up to my socials numbers. I think that one of the unfortunate things about social media, especially Instagram is that everyone is striving to post that ‘perfect’ photo…I am guilty of this myself. And to be perfectly honest, some days it is exhausting and not reality. Most days that I am at home with my kids, I am in sweats or pyjamas, with no makeup on doing 5 loads of laundry, playing with my kids and on to my 5th cup of Joe. I recently posted a photo of my family on my Insta Stories, my son was looking away, my daughter was trying to grab my hair, my husband and I were not looking…it was chaos. We take so many photos just to get that one perfect snap. I think what people fail to maybe realize is that these stunning photos are a mere glimpse into peoples lives, not the reality- including my own.
What is so important to me and the reason why I started my Blog is because when you read Fancy Little Momma, I want you to hear my voice, my opinions, thoughts and truths. I realize that in life not everyone is going to ‘like’ what I post or even agree with it, and thats completely OK. Not everyone is going to like you or your brand. If you ever feel as though someone is affecting you negatively, then don’t follow them, be friends with them or lurk them. It’s just not good for the soul. As we embark on this New Year, I think we all need to remind ourselves to always stay true to who we are. To not let others, their successes and failures measure our own. Thanks for reading!